Physical beauty is superficial.
What’s the origin of the phrase ‘Beauty is only skin deep’?
Proverb. First found in a work by Sir Thomas Overbury, 1613.
“All the carnall beauty of my wife, Is but skin deep.”
What his wife thought isn’t recorded. There is a fanciful work attributed to Overbury called A true and historical relation of the poysoning of Sir Thomas Overbury, 1651. Perhaps she had him worried?￼
“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” — Brené Brown
I want to you to do something before reading this entire article.
It may be confronting, but will herald a major step towards your self-acceptance.
Stand in front of a mirror and recite the following at least six times: “Your name, I love you.”
Gaze into your eyes as you say it, being meaningful while you deliver the words.
Avoid looking away or staring at what is behind you through the mirror. Don’t use the camera on your smartphone to do this exercise, let it be raw and simple.
Ok, try the exercise now.
What did you notice?
What feelings arose?
Could you hold your gaze and feel the words I love you?
Some people are reduced to tears when conducting this simple, yet powerful exercise.
Let’s be honest, if you cannot love yourself how can you embrace the love of another person?
You are likely to feel unworthy, while longing for love and intimacy of another person.
That’s where conflict arises.
When you love yourself, life takes care of the details because everything else is minor compared to the acceptance of one’s self.- Tony Fakhry in the Mission.